We brought our house in June last year and to say I was ready to have a space of our own would have been an understatment.
Months of living at my grandparents and friends while we saved, let’s just say, lost it’s charm. The sacrifice was hard but something I would do again. I love the security having our own little nest brings.
EVERYTHING came with us from our life before one and other. Boxes of stuff without uses, homes or meaning piled in the loft, spare room and anywhere we could fit it.
I never belived I had a lot of possesions and honestly never gave it much thought. This was until last November when a copy of Marie Kondo’s book fell into my hands: The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
This was brought in good spirit. I’ve always been messy and it’s one of my traits I (and Dan) personally dislike. Starting to tidy the kitchen usually ends in me pouring a glass of wine and scouring the fridge. Cleaning the bedroom results in me finding things and playing with them like a naughty child.
You’d be lying if you told me you’ve never gone to put your make up away and instead emerged with a smoky eye.
I brought this book to try and help myself tidy more methodically, I didn’t know it would have such an impact on my daily life.
After two days the book was devoured and I started on my decluttering journey over a weekend. Two more full days, nearly giving up twice and eight bin bags of stuff later I’d completed the process.
Marie (I’m allowed to call her that, we’re friends) teaches you to get all of your possessions from each catagory out at once, only this way you can see how much you really own and honestly? It can be quite scary.
Asking yourself after holding each item individually “does this spark joy?” really got me thinking about everything I buy/own that doesn’t serve me.
Looking at a top I once got myself stuck in I realised it hadn’t given me any joy since that fateful day. Instead it gave me clostrophobia and chucking it into the chairty bag felt freeing.
The top was all I needed to catch the minimalistic bug and I haven’t stopped thinking about what brings me joy since.
Life after The Life Changing Magic
Marie Kondo is now relaxing in a pile of books I love but I do have a quick look through from time to time. It definitely started an internal conversation and grew my interest in living simply.
Of course minimalism isn’t just about decluttering, but it’s a good place to start and it means something different to every person.
I’m still learning, our house is still a mess, I still own items I don’t love and the loft is yet to be tackled but it’s ok. Everything will get done at my own pace and can’t wait to share it with you all.
Learing I hate being surrounded by clutter and unnessesary stuff has been a revelation for me. Best of all minimalism applies to your whole life, not just your kitchen cupboards. Currently I’m working to declutter my phone and finances, something I’d never even thought about before (I’ll fill you all in when I’m done). I’m going to keep going so I have more time to do things that spark joy. Only nine thousand more phone photos to sort through….
The simpler you create your life, the less time you spend doing and buying things you don’t really want. Make space for all the things that make you happy and hopefully you’ll be happier too.
When I discover a subject I love you can be sure I’ll fall hard. A bit like when I first discovered Malbec and peanut butter. Two intense, ongoing love stories. Maries book is a great place to start your journey but if you can’t wait have a listen right now to “The Minimilists” podcast (they have a great Netflix documentary too called Minimalism). For beautiful simplicity Jessica Rose Williams blog is such a source of inspiration for me so do check her work out!
I’ve taken away a lot from this experience and for me, the most important is that you are not defined by your possessions. People remember people because they’re kind, not because they can afford eight ASOS deliveries a month. You’re doing great.
Lots of love,