Without even thinking I know, when we scroll through that little love we call Instagram we can look at other peoples lives and compliment them and sometimes compare. The ootd that was just banging or that chicken pie that looks like Mary Berry must live next door. It’s because you’re kind and I honestly believe that if you think something nice you should put it out into the world. Hell if someone thinks I’ve got good hair game I want to hear it!
In real life (the not so real life being instagram of course) we do things all the time that we should be saying nice things to ourselves for. It could be anything from helping someone off a train, kindly (and discreetly) letting that girl in the bathroom know the toilet roll is stuck to her shoe or having the confidence to network at an event. These little things all deserve an internal high five and I would say 99% of the time definitely leave ourselves hanging.
Being critical of ourselves, in the right way, personally and professionally can help us develop and grow. Taking inspiration from people who you look up to can help you challenge yourself and spark new levels of creativity. Just like looking at your own work and picking out things you love and things you may do differently next time could light the fire for the next idea.
Here are a couple of things I think and do that taught me to be kinder to myself. It takes years of practice and I’m not totally there yet myself but I’m so happy with how far I’ve come.
You are enough
Just you, as you are and what you are doing right now is completely enough. We may want more or aspire to be better versions of ourselves and that is okay as long as you remember there is nothing wrong with how you are now (unless of course you keep tripping people up or something so please stop if you are). One day I would love to blog full time and travel more but I know that the path I’m on now is also perfectly okay and if I keep working I’ll get there. Girl you’re killing it.
Self criticism should always be constructive or your just being mean
Telling yourself your shoulders are too broad (something I used to tell myself a lot) isn’t going to help you, but being kind to yourself will. Those shoulders hold my neck, that holds my head which I now realise I totally need so I love them. The minute I stopped being so horrible to myself about the things I couldn’t change I grew to love them more and started focusing on things that really mattered to me like pizza.
Say something kind to yourself everyday
Not only does it make you feel more confident but kind thoughts in your brain are by far better for your wellbeing than a internal telling off. Pick a time of the day day when you give yourself a compliment and hopefully, after a while, you will do it without thinking.
For me body confidence has always been an issue. Emotional eating, exercising to exhaustion and hiding kit-kat chunky wrappers in different compartments of my handbag so people didn’t know i’d eaten them were a regular occurrence. Each mirror I passed I’d say something horrible to myself and I wasn’t living my best life. Now, every morning when I get dressed I tell myself I love my body and I’m so grateful it functions so well for me. This is an absolute must as I never want to end up hating the thing that gives me so many opportunities again.
Do you remember when Aristocats taught us that if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say nothing at all? That applies to you too hun.
Please let me know your thoughts on being kinder to you!
Lots of love,