A Fresh Perspective on Resoloutions

As we trip and fall to the end 2019 my mind always wonders, what’s in store next?

Please click here for some mistakes I’ve managed to complete the last few years, if you were worrying yours has been a bit of a flop.

Ending the year having drank far too much red wine and eaten too many of “the purple one” usually leaves us feeling exhausted. Those big New Years resolutions’ start creeping in through utter loathing of ones vegetated self.

It’s the law in December to break all rules so please, stop being so hard on yourself. At least you probably won’t get as drunk as Aunt Carol did last year (although we’re not there yet so sorry, you might)…

Why is it that change, or in this case, resolutions, always feel like we’re taking something away. Restricting ourselves and banning anything that includes chocolate, being passive aggressive or spending money. How we think we’ll keep these going for a whole year is beyond me. But if you are one of those people that seem to nail year long resolutions, tell me all your secrets.

Next year I’ve decided I’m not going to ban anything from my life. Instead I plan to add things that bring me joy.

In the past my resolutions looked a little like this…

  • Loose ten pounds
  • Stop wasting money on shit you don’t need
  • Cut down intake of wine

Personally, I’m convinced that the “normal way” of doing resolutions is flawed. Too many of us fail for them to really be effective so it’s time for a new plan.

I never managed to lose those ten pounds, I still sometimes buy a three pound fifty soup from Pret I could have made myself and currently I’m sat with a glass.

See? Flawed.

Perhaps this post is really about me finding excuses as to why I can’t follow things through but I like to think I’m not the only one so for now, let’s blame something or someone else.

Add things in, don’t take things out

Adding a little bit of what’s good into your life each day makes such a big difference to your wellbeing.

Spending more time doing things you love will of course make you happier on a daily basis. Happiness is really what all of our New Year resolutions boil down to. We think we’ll be happier when we’ve lost the weight, got clearer skin and received the pay rise but in reality happiness has no end goal. Happiness is something we work on our whole lives and finding out what brings you joy is the first step of many.

Write down a few things you love. Things you REALLY love.

That list you made, that’s what you need to be making time for. Forget banning things that don’t matter. Make time for the things you know make you happy.

Voila, your New Year resolutions’ are sorted.

Do you love stroking cats? Well it’s time to go and do more of that.

You may think “I’ve got such a busy schedule; I’m not going to find time to bake every weekend” but why not? Just make the time for it. That thing you changed so you could find the time to make scones was obviously not as important so it’s fine that you didn’t do it, the world will keep spinning.

As humans there are several things we need to do to survive. Eat, drink, watch Netflix. The rest is conditioning. Things we think we need to do to live a life we think we should be living. But in reality, we just don’t need to.

I’ve already written my “this year, I’m going to enjoy list” and I’ll share it with you below. Please let me know what you’re going to put on yours, I can’t to see what you’re all going to be enjoying more of next year.

Please share this post with anyone you think it will help and message me on Instagram to talk yours over! Here it goes;

This year, I’m going to enjoy… 

  • Lots of yummy yoga sessions
  • Giving back
  • Playing with my camera and taking photographs
  • Sketching
  • Enjoying slow Sundays with Dan
  • Eating good food with good friends

Go out there and fill your life with things that bring you joy, no one else will fill it for you.

Lots of love,

K x

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3 Comments

  1. December 11, 2019 / 9:36 am

    I love this mindset! Hoping to go into 2020 with a similar one 🙂 x

    • Kirstiestillpetite
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      December 11, 2019 / 5:18 pm

      Thank you so much my love! Yes sounds like a good plan to me ❤️

  2. Hannah Sinclair
    December 11, 2019 / 1:24 pm

    I absolutely loved this post Kirstie! It was such a lovely and refreshing view of resolutions. I’m all about making our lives happier rather than more difficult and restrictive!xx

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